Colectivism vs Despotism

Hi!

Since we have to choose between the 2 options, then why don't you make the game so that those who don't want to fight, not to. For example, if i choose colectivism i won't be able to attack other players and they don't attack me. And if I choose despotism I'll fight with other players who chose the same. 

Now I have a neighbour that keeps attacking me, although I told her / him that I don't want to fight. I just want to solve the mines and caves and to research, And it's not fun anymore since I have to rebuild my town every day, The reason I was told is that I'm too close to their border, but there are 6 rows between my town and the border. So please, maibe you can do something, because I like the game very much, but not the fighting part

Unfortunately, this is an old issue. 
You need to do one of 3 things.
1. join an alliance they will help protect you.
2. put up towers and walls to protect your towns.
3. start a new hero in a different area. 

do not ever delete your hero, just let them age off.